Does vanity kill kindness?


A friend of mine posted on facebook the other day that people shouldn’t give to charity and then post about it on social media. They should keep it to themselves for it to be an honest act of kindness. And I said something along the lines that ‘isn’t it better to post about it so that you remind other people to give what they can’? And he said that he just wanted to make people look harder at themselves why they do that. Is it a vanity project or do they really wanna help people?

And then I started thinking, does it matter? At least they are giving. Posting that people should think about why they post on social media that they give to charity isn’t helping anybody at all.

In fact it says more about that persons vanity, caring about what it looks like than about the person who in fact gave something. Or am I wrong? I’m confused here.

Anyway! We met a new friend here through the blog. A wonderful guy who straight away started spreading our music to his friends and even to radio. We should focus more on that on social media. If you see a great drawing, film clip or a piece of music you like, share it! Tell a friend! The person who made it will be forever grateful and you get to be the one who found something nice and made some other person’s day better by showing this great find to them.
I will definitely try to get better at doing that. It’s a beautiful thing. Thanks Timothy! (Tomas Juto, aka Barba).


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Swedish 7 piece urban folk band. Tomas Juto: keyboard/lead vocals | Oskar Hovell: acoustic guitar/banjo/lead vocals | Tony Lind: drums/vocals | Oscar Harryson: guitar | Christopher Anderzon: bass/vocals | Mårten Forssman: harmonica | Andreas Prybil: percussion/vocals

One thought on “Does vanity kill kindness?”

  1. Wow! Thanks for the mention. I really appreciate it. You guys are great.

    I agree with you that it doesn’t really matter why people give as long as they are giving and helping others. We all need to do our part to make the world a better place. You help make the world a better place through your music, and I do what I can with photography.

    I can understand how some people might feel like they are boasting if they announce to the world on social media that they gave to charity, and, therefore, they don’t want to say anything about it. However, they need to consider that if announcing to the world that they gave to charity might inspire a lot of other people to give to charity, they need to announce it, announce it, and announce it again!

    What good is your music it people don’t know it’s out there and miss out on listening to it? It’s not fair to the rest of the world to discover great music and not tell anyone else about it. Music needs to be heard, art needs to be seen, literature needs to be read, we all need to help others less fortunate than ourselves, and we need to encourage other people to do the same.


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